What You Didn't Learn in Sex Ed: Chantelle Otten Explains

What did school sex ed leave out, and how is that gap still shaping your sex life? I sat down with Australian sexologist Chantelle Otten, author of The Sex Ed You Never Had, who calls the brain the biggest sexual organ.

Chantelle explains why she sees porn as entertainment and not education, how a religious upbringing can leave shame around sex, what separates ethical non-monogamy from cheating, and why she says vulva owner instead of women. She also shares how kids in Holland learn consent from age four, why losing an erection is normal and how a partner's reaction can turn it into a pattern, and why keeping your own interests and making time for intimacy helps a long relationship.

Most of her answers come back to curiosity, safety and kindness, and her meaning of life comes down to one word: love.